So over the past few days I have been thinking about how much I have changed since I have become a mom. When I had my first son I was able to bounce back into the swing of things with no problem. However, after the last two not so much as I would have hoped. I have basically been putting all of my time into being a mom and not focusing on too much else.
I had my first son when I was 18 so I was still highly into my appearance. I popped back into my pre-pregnancy weight in no more than a month and continued doing my hour sometimes two hour beauty routine faithfully each and every day. However, after the last two I found my morning full of making bottles for the day, feedings, dressing them, and making them breakfast. After all of that was done I was basically too exhausted to do anything more than take a quick shower and throw on some yoga pants, cleanse my face, and put my hair in a ponytail to start my work day.
Recently, my SO was looking through some old pictures of me and I could hardly believe they were me. If I were to show you guys the pictures you would be like, “No way is that her”. So, it started me to thinking just because I am a young mom I can still work on my appearance as well. So, now I have started my beauty routine back up (face masks twice a week, body scrubs once a week, light makeup, hair salon once a week, and nail salon once a week/once every two weeks). I must say that just by doing this I have started to feel better about myself.
Exercise is something that I never really did. However, what I have realized is I never really needed to because before I had kids I was super active. I was always going on walks, running with friends, etc. Now with the kids these things are not possible. I am lower than my pre-pregnancy weight but my stomach still suffers. I thought it I lost weight I would lose my stomach but it did not work that way. So, as a solution to this I started doing the 30 Day Squat Challenge (currently on Day 4 will be taking before and after pictures so I can share my results once it is done) and after I finish that I plan on doing the 30 Day Crunch Challenge in addition to going to Boot Camp on the weekends. I have only been working out for four days and I must say that I have been feeling more energized. My legs are killing me but I feel great.
Currently, my life consists of taking care of the kids, working, and school. Outside of that I catch sleep when I can. Friends don’t find me fun anymore and neither does my SO. I have even recently started to see myself as being un-fun so I avoid doing the things I used to enjoy doing so much. When I became a mom with my first son I still did fun things. However, when I added in two more little ones I buckled down a lot (not partying wise I never really that lol) and focused on the three things mentioned previously. However, doing so has drove me to depression numerous times and I know it is time for something to change before I lead myself to an early death.
Overall, this post is out there for all of the moms who have changed too much since having kids. I am a young mom and was confused about what to do. I thought my life had to surround around making everyone else in the house happy and eventually it would be my turn. In return I received (not happiness) migraine headaches, depression, and sleepless nights. By making these three changes in my life I am hoping to be able to achieve happiness again as well as be able to be a better mother to my children. I will update you as my journey continues to let you know how it goes.
What do you do to avoid depression? Have has your life changed since you became a mom? Can you relate to any of the three points that I have mentioned in my post? Share your thoughts in the comments section below.