Being a mom of three boys I find it hard to ever get away. I know you may think I am joking but it is something that I am so serious about. In fact, because of their dad’s work schedule and his “me time” I actually end up spending a lot of time inside. To be honest it has kind of been getting to me and I am trying to avoid going back into a depressed mood.
My Normal Day
My days consist of me getting up at five am every morning – yes even on the weekends – and tending to my youngest (8 months). He wakes to be fed and changed so I do that and quickly wash my face and brush my teeth to get my work day started. I work from home for those of you who may not know. I work consistently while working on my two blogs until about 7 or 8 am when the older two boys get up (1 and 3, yet closer to 2 and 4). When they wake up they have breakfast then spend time playing until our in home sitter comes on call at 11am. Usually, the baby wakes back up around 10am so I have to make him another bottle and he interacts with his brothers and I. When 11am comes I am then able to give him his bath since the sitter is there to interact with the boys until 5:30pm. Once the baby takes another nap I get back to work and try to throw in a quick shower for myself when I have free time. Well, you get the gist of the day up until five thirty. When 5:30 comes around it is then time for me to go back downstairs with the baby to join in with my other boys. We may watch a movie or something (they have already been fed and dressed by the sitter of course for those who are wondering) and then bed time comes in at 9:30pm. Monday through Friday their dad may join us about 6pm on the weekends if he is working (which is not uncommon) it will be around 9pm. He has to get himself together (shower and stuff as most of you know he is a roofer) after working since 6am. After the boys go to bed I then have to stay up and do my schoolwork (last year for my bachelor’s degree) if I have an assignment due. Busy life right.
My life is pretty jammed pack as I know you probably had already imagined anyways since I am 22 with three kids all under 4. But, it can also be very stressful at times even though I do love all three of my boys every month. One thing that I know causes me a dilemma and leads me to depression is the fact that I have no license. It was on my two do list for last month but somehow it got pushed on the backburner with other things taking place in my life. Since I don’t drive that kind of leaves me in the house 24/7. Seriously, I work from home online full time and I attend school online full time. Not to mention the fact that I even order house supplies and things online too. My SO does the grocery shopping while I stay at home with the kids (occasionally he will take the older two places when him when he goes but most likely the baby is staying with me).
Has This Happen Before?
Yes, I have been down this path many times before. Once I have spent the entire month inside of the home with the kids only going out maybe twice to accompany the kids to the doctor. I got in a really down mood and the SO started to noticed and tried to make it so I could have at least an hour to myself a week. However, this routine has become the norm again.
What Do You Moms Do?
I know there are a lot of single moms out there as well as moms who basically live like single moms even though they have a partner. How do you make time for yourself when you have multiple kids and you always are going to have at least one of them? Don’t take this post the wrong way because I love my kids dearly just sometimes it would be nice to have some “me time” without all of the baby talk or just talking to other moms online. I kind of feel like I am becoming a hermit; actually take that back I know so. I have started burying myself in work and school again which is why I am trying to find a solution to this before it is too late.
Answers to Questions You Have To Be Thinking?
Do I find time to eat? My eating usually involves two Red Bulls a day or left overs from what the kids had for lunch or dinner. Then there is the occasional junk. Don’t get this wrong we have a fridge and freezer full of food but with all that goes on every day I simply do not have time to cook. (The sitter does cook for the kids though)
Why Doesn’t The Sitter Watch the Baby? The baby is so young so I am protective over him. Also, I don’t want to have to burden the sitter too much since they have to do curriculum with the younger boys and all of that. The sitter does watch the baby if I have to make a quick trip to the store for diapers or something though and they wouldn’t mind watching the baby but I would feel like a user.
I guess my main question is how do you moms manage to keep your saneness? I am sure I am not the only one who becomes overwhelmed from time to time. It is nice taking advice from other moms who have experienced this and not talking to friends who don’t have kids but plenty of horrible advice.