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When most people here the word abuse they automatic picture someone who is enduring domestic violence. However, physical abuse is not the only kind of abuse that marriages and intimate relationships may have. Emotional abuse is difficult to overcome because most of the time it is hard for people to identify – even the victim. We all know that domestic abuse is pretty bad but emotional abuse is bad to because it is an invisible form of abuse. It may not leave the victim with scars but it does live them in a perpetual state of confusion and self – blame.
In the book “Emotional Assault: Recognizing an Abusive Partners Bag of Tricks by Lisa Kroulik you will be shed some light on eight of the most common tactics that emotionally abusive people use to control their partners. Lisa uses examples from her personal life with her former husband to help you see that she really knows what she is talking about and understands what it is like to be in an emotionally abusive relationship. Not only does she use examples from her personal life but she also tells victims how they can confront the behavior and what to expect when you do.
The second part of the book goes into a little detail about her current relationship as well as how she was able to get out of the emotionally abusive relationship after years of enduring it. She is living proof that you can make it through.
When I saw the opportunity to review this book I knew it was something that I wanted to do. Many of you who have been reading my blog for a while know that I suffer from severe depression at times. This is something that has been brought on from physically and emotionally abusive relationships. I know that I am not the only woman who has endured these types of relationships in my life so I figured discussing it on the blog would be a good idea.
When first starting to read the book, “Emotional Assault: Recognizing an Abusive Partners Bag of Tricks” I was in complete tears. I can totally relate to Lisa’s story. However, mine goes a bit deeper than hers as I have also been in physically abusive relationships as well. I won’t say that one is worse than the other because the truth is both hurt a lot. Domestic abuse can last as long as emotional abuse depending on the extinct of the injuries. For example, as a result of me staying in an abusive relationship for far too long I now endure serious migraines from repeatedly being kicked in my head, pushed down stairs, and more. However, emotional abusive relationships also scar you. They cause you to be isolated, feel unloved, and just turn into this person who just wishes it all would end.
Lisa was able to stay in her relationship because she wanted to make it work. She truly did not see her husband as being abusive since he never hit her. However, the results that she experiences near the end of the marriage in my opinion were just as worse as being physically abused. From experience I know how hard it can be to leave a physical or emotionally abusive relationship when kids are involved. I cannot even count the times that I hear the phrase, “You made your bed know you have to lay in it”. Eventually, to be honest I started to believe it. To me it is more important for my children to be happy than for me to be happy. They didn’t ask to be here so I should not cause them pain for my own happiness. I didn’t have the best childhood, my parents got divorced, and I even ended up getting thrown into foster care. I don’t want that for my boys. They are happy, outgoing, and I want to keep it that way. I manage to hold myself together when they are around and at night I just cry until I am cried all out. Don’t get me wrong some days can be good while other days are bad.
Overall, if you are someone who is in an emotionally abusive relationship I highly suggest that you read this book. Who else can relate to what you are going through than someone who has been through it themselves? You may not be able to get out of the relationship overnight but this book can be the encouragement you need. You may be able to even fix the emotionally abusive relationship. As Lisa mentions in the book it is possible that your abuser does not know what they are doing to you.
Have you ever been in an emotionally abusive relationship? If so, feel free to share your success story in the comments section below.
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