Depression is one of the topics that I like to cover here from time to time since I am a parent who struggles with depression. I know there are other parents who struggle from depression and you should never feel alone. I hope that the advice that I share in this article today will help you through your rough patch.
Take it One Day at a Time
When depression sets in do not try to plan things far in advance. Instead, focus on making it through each day. You can still do your daily to-do-lists but try not to load it up as normal. Not accomplishing everything on the list can make you even more stressed, which will lead to depression setting in, even deeper.
People always say that crying does not solve anything but with depression, this is not the case. After the kids go to bed, take a nap, or you have any alone time feel free to let it all out. I try never to cry in front of my kids when I am depressed yet if I hold all of my emotions in it just seem to slide out anyways. Therefore, when you have some free time out of their eyesight go ahead and let the tears roll better.
Talk and Think Positive
When you are depressed all types of thoughts run through your head. The sad part is usually they are negative thoughts that lead to you becoming even more depressed. Whenever, I see my mind wants me to focus on all of my faults and weaknesses I say positive things about myself aloud.
Hug Your Kids
My boys are my world. So, when I feel depressed I feel bad for wanting to distance myself from them since I am not the chipper mom that they have become accustom too. However, my youngest son is home with me all day and he loves to be up under me. He also loves to give me kisses and hugs throughout the day for no reason at all which always put me in a better mood. When my oldest boys come home from daycare, they tell me they missed me, love me, give me a hug, and kiss. Even when I am not depressed, it brightens up my day. When I feel myself getting down I go for a hug from them and sometimes even let them sleep in my bed and I find my mood lightening up with their presence.
Write a Letter
Sometimes my depression can become severe and it is mixed in with rage. When I feel myself getting to my boiling point I write a letter about all of the things on my mind that have caused me to get the rage feeling. I do not send it to anyone but it helps me get everything off my mind. I highly recommend this approach for those of you who cannot see a therapist nor have anyone to talk to. Trust me, writing it out and maybe even reading the letter aloud helps a lot. You will cry during the process but it feels better once you have everything off your chest.
These are my tips for coping with my depression while allowing myself to parent effectively. Do you have any tips to share? If so, feel free to list them in the comments section below.