One you become a mom you are in for many surprises. You can read books and go to parenting forums yet you will never be 100% prepared to be a mom. Therefore, today I am taking some time to go back in time and educate myself on five things I wish I would have known before becoming a mom.
You Will Be Tortured for the First Couple of Months
Let us face it babies are cute when they first arrive in the world. Nevertheless, once you settle in with them you will find that they do not have a sleep schedule, breastfeeding hurts a lot, and learning to figure out what each cry means can make you want to pull your hair out. The good news is if you make it through the first couple of months, you are a superhero who can survive anything.
You Will Wish You Cherished Sleep More
Remember staying up all night with friends. Once the baby arrives, you will be kicking yourself. Also, keep in mind this actually goes on past the infant stage. Once toddler stage arrives, you then have to deal with nightmares and only being able to clean or do other household duties once your children are sleeping.
Purchase as Little as Possible
With my first and second son, I splurged before their arrivals. This was the biggest mistake ever. Half or maybe more than half, of the stuff I purchased was not used and ended up being donated to charity with the price tags on. What a waste of money, especially when they started growing like weeds and I now have to replace clothes and shoes, what feels like every month.
Surprise Costs Can Come at Any Time
One thing that you do want to invest in is diapers and wipes. You can never have enough. They may get a case of the runs, which causes them to go through an entire pack of diapers and wipes in one day. Then, as they get older, they will want to participate in sports, classes, go on field trips, and more. Therefore, it is always important to make sure that you have a rainy day fund saved for all of these emergency surprises to avoid stress.
The Hell with Milestones
If you go by what books and forums say should be, happening at a certain time you will drive yourself insane, not to mention the doctors too. Each child is unique. I learned this the hard way. My first son met most of his milestones and when my second missed some, I was in a panic. Each child is different, do not worry they are fine.
Having children are a blessing. However, you will never be the same person that you were before. This list could go on and on for thousands of words. However, these are the main things I wish I would have known before becoming a mom.
What are some of the things you wish you would have known before becoming a mom? Feel free to share them in the comments section below.