We’ve all been guilty of looking at the frazzled mom and unruly kids and making a snap judgment that’s often not very charitable and is probably miles from the truth. As moms, we should understand that what works for our family doesn’t always work for others. Here are four categories of choices to be crossed off of your “judgey mom” list once and for all.
Whether you go natural, have enough drugs to knock-out a rhino or go through the nerve-wracking experience of a C-section, so long as it ends in a tiny human exiting your body in some fashion, you have given birth. One birth experience does not necessarily outrank another, so stop judging moms who haven’t made the same choices you did.
You can’t be sure of anything that’s going on just because you see a harried mom and hyper kids heading into McDonald’s. If another mom’s food choices bother you, keep in mind that you have the right to feed your kids however you like. You definitely wouldn’t want anyone judging you for dashing into a fast food joint to feed your kids between activities and obligations, or because there was a family emergency and no time to cook!
Whether you stay home with your little ones or have a job you go to every day, your choice to put your child in daycare (or preschool), or not, at an early age is a very personal one. Sometimes, it’s not feasible for a mom to stay home with her little ones, so don’t judge moms who have to make use of daycare, preschool or childcare services for their kids at an age you would find unacceptable.
Seeing kids act out in a public place can cause some very frayed nerves, especially if it appears the mother isn’t confronting the situation in a way you find appropriate. Remember, you don’t know the situation for that mother and her child, so keep an open mind and don’t interfere. You never know when there’s a lesson being taught or something deeper happening.