Face it; women are having children younger and younger. My oldest son was born when I was 18. I am now 24 with three kids and I parent them just as well as an older mom. In fact, my kids actually made me buckle down and think about the future. However, when people first find out I have three kids I am always told one phrase or another and it gets annoying. I am sure all of you young moms can relate to the following.
You’re Not Old Enough to Have X Amount of Kids
When I had my oldest son, I was constantly told I was not old enough to have a kid. People always thought he was my little brother. As a young mother, we realize that we had children young, however, as long as we are taking care of them there should not be a problem.
Where are the Dads?
Just because someone is young with multiple children, it does not automatically mean that the kids all have different fathers. In my case, this is especially annoying because all three of my children look alike. Additionally, just because a young mother takes the kids out alone it does not mean that she is single. When older mothers are playing at the park with their children, you don’t automatically assume that they are single and her children have multiple fathers so why do it with a younger mom.
How Old Were You When You Had Kids?
I am commonly mistaken for a teenager so when people find out I have three kids they think I must have started at age 14. On the occasions that I decide to reveal my age, a large percentage of the time, the person asking looks like they just saw a ghost. Honestly, 24 is not very young.
Where do you work?
Asking what I do for a living is the most common question I am hit with when people find out my age and that I have three kids. What makes it even worse is I make all of my money online so they really look like they have sucked on a lemon when they find that out. Then, I am bombarded with a million other questions such as, “How do you support them doing that”, “What made you want to start working from home?” and “How do you work from home with three kids”?
Are all of them your “real” kids?
Now, this question leaves me wondering what they could be possibly thinking. I’m a young mom already, so are you thinking I have adopted kids or I am a foster mother? Where do you think they came from? You see all of them look alike so why would you not think that I am their biological mother. I guess seeing a young mother with more than one kid is a bit too much for some people to believe.
Young mothers already deal with enough struggles. We don’t need society causing even more stress. The next time you see a young mother consider saying, “Your kids are adorable”, What’s your skin secret, you look so young”, or “Would you like to schedule a play date”.