Bad company is the type of company that drags you down and stops you from achieving your goals. It’s more common than you think that people fail to reach their potential simply because of the people in their friendship group. If you have bad company, you need to get rid of them as soon as you possibly can.
Here are the top reasons why you need to do it and do it now.
Bad Company Shapes Your Attitude
The way you look at the world is shaped entirely by the people you are friends with. No matter how independent you are, your worldview is controlled almost entirely by those around you. It’s why people who live in the same towns and villages tend to have similar views.
Think about the views that your friends have. If you are surrounded entirely by cynics, the chances are you are going to become cynical as well. Spending time around people who do nothing but complain will lead to you becoming exactly the same.
You are Not Achieving Your Goals
Bad friends have a habit of stopping you from achieving your goals. You may be going home after work to clean up the house, learn a new language, or begin work on your side business. Then the phone rings. Someone pressures you into meeting them at the bar.
Inevitably, you find yourself sitting at the bar and none of the goals you wanted to accomplish that evening are accomplished. Plans change all the time, but if it’s happening time and time again as a result of your friends they are only dragging you down.
There’s nothing wrong with blowing off work every so often, but you need to make sure your overall direction is forward.
They are Costing You Money
You can have a group of five and if at least one or two of them are rich 99% of the time the other three will be rich too. It’s no coincidence and it’s not because rich people tend to bond over a game of polo. It’s because successful people gravitate to each other. Successful people ditch their toxic friends from their youth.
The author Jim Rohn once said that you are the average of the people around you. Take your five best friends and look at their lives. If they are losers, they are only going to drag you into the same rut. People who want to achieve a high salary connect with people who are already there.
Just because you hang out with rich people doesn’t automatically entitle you to the same wealth. You hang out with rich people because they come with the drive, passion, and will to succeed. That’s what will rub off on you.
You are Hurting Them
This may be a hard point to understand, but it’s true. You are hurting your toxic friends by hanging around with them. By allowing them to continue their respective cycles of self-destruction, you are allowing them to sit in that rut. Often, people don’t realize that they have messed up.
By seeing you steadily disconnect and become successful, it may inspire them to do the same. Nobody is a lost cause and there’s no reason why someone can’t turn their lives around.
So How Do You Get Started?
Now that you’ve decided that you need to upgrade the company you keep, you may think that you have to organize some drama-filled meeting. This is not the case at all. Make a conscious effort to drift away. Start to turn down some invitations and make a conscious effort to meet other people and insert yourself into their friendship circles.
Getting started is easier than you think. All it requires is a conscious effort to succeed. There’s no reason why you can’t make this work. But make sure you get started today.
Is this Cruel?
Some readers may believe that this is something that’s cruel. After all, you are ditching people in order to hang around with the cooler kids. While it may sound like something only a horrible person would do, you are actually lifting both parties up.
Cutting away from a friend is as much a help to them as it is to you. You are under no obligation to stick with anyone, especially not if it compromises your dreams and ambitions. You only live one life and if you don’t take this opportunity now you may never take it.
Do you want to retire regretting that you didn’t spend time on your side business instead of going to the bar?