Times have changed and dating is done in some very creative ways. From people (including single moms) going on reality tv shows, such as Coupled and Dating Naked, to online dating on sites such as POF and apps such as Tinder, it can be hard trying to survive dating in general. As a single mom, you have to raise a child or children full time, making it hard to maintain a social life – how can you even consider trying to form a new love life? It can be done and today this guide is going to tell you how to survive as a single mom in the online dating world.
#1 Be Upfront About Your Children
Now, this doesn’t mean the very first thing you should say out your mouth is “I have children do you?”. Instead, it means when filing out your profiles on various dating sites make sure you are honest about having kids. This saves everyone from wasting their time.
#2 Don’t Feel Rushed to Meet
While the point of online dating is to interact in person, it doesn’t mean that the same day you start a conversation with someone you should be planning a date for that evening. Take your time and exchange some messages and possibly exchange phone numbers (use an app like TextFree if you don’t feel comfortable giving out your personal number) to take some time to find out some basic things about your mate. Additionally, always make sure the first few meetings are in a public place, you don’t want to be bringing a bunch of strange people to the place where your children have to lay their heads.
#3 Do Your Research
Being a single parent means that you don’t have access to loads of free time. You have to have a tight schedule or you will easily find yourself failing at something. However, before jumping into online dating you have to research potential sites and apps that you want to join. You have free and paid online dating sites and apps available. DON’T make the mistake of thinking a paid app or site will get you better results because it won’t.
Initially, it will take some time to perform research on the sites. However, this saves you a ton of time because if you just join a random site you may find that it doesn’t have the quality of matches that you expected. Actually take time to read other user reviews (both good and bad) so you can have some insight on what sort of experience to expect from the site.
#4 Don’t Expect to Find the Right Person Immediately
Even after you have found, talked, and met in person, don’t assume that you have found your new mate. You actually have to find time to “date” them to see if they are a match. In fact, you shouldn’t be looking for romance at all when dating online. Instead, you should be looking for friends, but open to the possibility of it turning into more. If you sign up for an online dating site with the main goal of falling in love, you are setting yourself up for failure and a ton of heartache.
See Also: Tips for Dating as a Single Parent
If you can do these four things you can survive the online dating world as a single mom.
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