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As parents, we tend to stress out all the time. There is always some financial problem, co-worker trying to backstab you, school work to be done, relationship issues, or family members that always seem to stir up trouble. Your children are unaware of the severity of this at times. Your child can feel anxious, scared, or grow up with negative feelings and behavior patterns because of listening and watching you. Here are a few tips on how to not negatively impact your child when you are super stressed.
Spend Time with Your Kids
Children can easily tell when their parents are stressed out. If stressed out parents are around their kids, they are distant and not engaging with them. The behavioral pattern is off and children can detect this.
So, if you are stressed out, be sure to spend time with your kids that will make you engaged no matter what. This could include going out for a bike ride, swimming, or playing hide-n-go-seek. Anything that can’t involve you sitting around and thinking about your woes.
Don’t Talk About Your Problems in Front of Your Kids
The cause of most arguments in the home is about family or finances. Your children are hearing every word, and although they may not understand what it’s about, they know something is wrong and making you scared. Seeing or hearing their parents argue makes all children scared and upset. Your emotions are easily picked up and heightened by children.
Don’t vent in front of your children. Make sure they are not within distance of hearing you on the phone venting with a friend or in person with your partner.
If Finances are an Issue, Don’t Blame Your Child
At times, we spend money on our kids when we don’t have it because we want the best for them. However, when you are stressed, are having financial difficulties, or have had a seamlessly endless day at work, spending is the last thing on your mind. But financial crisis seems to always strike when we’re already in a financial jam. Children need new or replacement school supplies, money for a last-minute class trip, extra lunch money, or want to take up a sport.
Don’t lash out at your child and talk about how money is so tight. Before giving an answer, tell your child that you’ll get back to them. Then, go take a moment to yourself. Analyze the situation and see if it’s feasible or not for what your child needs. If not, go back and speak to them about it and see if you can find a means to compromise, such as telling them you can’t this week, but maybe next week.
Closing Thoughts on Not Negatively Impacting Your Children When You Are Super Stressed
Many parents tend to tell their children too much so that they understand what’s going on. Just remember, they are children and it’s not their job to take on all of that. It’s ok to express that you’re going through something, but be sure to also express positive ways of dealing with it. More than anything else, be sure to take time out for yourself and relax.
How do you avoid negatively impacting your children when you are super stressed?