Despite the fact that my youngest son will be three in September, I remember my pregnancy days from all three of my kids. However, my most recent pregnancy was my best one because I ignored the loads of unwanted advice that I received. It was bad enough having to deal with swollen ankles, numerous doctor visits, and morning sickness. Therefore, today I am sharing nine tips that will help you make it through your nine months of pregnancy.
#1 It Is Okay to Wait on the Gender
With my last son, I delayed finding out the gender until it was time for the baby shower. Relatives will sometimes try to pressure you because they want to shop in advance or they just want to know in general. You can wait as long as you like because you can just prepare for either gender by getting neutral colors. This is your pregnancy so never feel like you are being pressured into doing anything.
#2 Do What You Want
Unless a doctor is telling you to not do something, do what you want. You have to remember this is your pregnancy. If you want to get a 3D ultrasound done – do it. If you want to continue to work out – do it. People are going to have their own opinion but you should not let it deter you from enjoying your pregnancy and life as long as you are not putting your unborn child’s life in danger. During my last pregnancy many did not agree with my decision to do a home birth (despite the fact that the closest hospital was 5 minutes away and I was having a normal pregnancy) but I did it anyways and it was the best birth ever. If you don’t do something that you want to do during your pregnancy, you will regret it later.
#3 Sleep as Much as Possible
With my first pregnancy, I did not get a lot of sleep. Oh how I regretted this once my son was born. You may hear about moms having babies who sleep a lot. However, you do not know how your child is going to react. I was so tired during the process (I also breastfed) and some days I would feel like breaking down crying because I needed sleep. With my other two pregnancies, I made it a habit of being in bed by 10 at the latest because I knew that I needed to have a lot of energy when the big arrival of my children came.
#4 Get a Mid Wife and Have a Home Birth If Possible (and its something you want to do)
With my last son, I decided to have a home birth and it was an amazing experience. I didn’t have to go to the doctor as much and the mid wife came to my home once the pregnancy was in the last trimester. The reason I recommend mid wives and home births are because you get more attention. When you have a hospital birth (My other kids were born in hospitals) you will be greeted with rude staff (depends on your hospital), coldness (I am anemic), and a stressful environment in general. Think about it, you are having a baby in a place where other women are having children. (This can be a little much for a first time mom, hearing all of the screaming and such).
Anyways, I could list numerous reasons as to why I wish I had home births with my other kids yet this is not the purpose of this article. Overall, if you are considering a home birth do it and don’t let anyone discourage you. Your mid wife should make sure that you could have a healthy home birth before you start a birth plan.
#5 Do Not Overdo It with Baby Products
With my first son, he had so much stuff it was crazy. In fact, he didn’t use a bunch of the stuff (especially clothes and shoes) because there was just too much. On some stuff, you can overstock with such as bibs, burp clothes and wipes. However, do not go crazy shopping for clothes, shoes, and other cute infant items as the infant stage flies by. You will be thankful that you saved money in the end.
#6 Do Not Purchase Maternity Clothes in Advance
With my first son, I automatically assumed that I would need maternity clothes. Everyone was saying I needed to get them sooner because I was going to blow up early. What a waste of money – I was able to wear my regular clothes throughout my entire pregnancy. While some of my jeans wouldn’t fasten I was able to wear yoga pants and dresses. Therefore, when people are nagging in your ear about maternity clothes, ignore them. I have had three children without needing to wear maternity clothes. If you do find yourself needing them, purchase them when the time comes. Therefore, if you end up not needing them you have not wasted any money.
#7 Its Okay to Say You Don’t Want Advice
Friends and family will try to offer you advice with the best intentions during your pregnancy. However, most of it is unwanted. If you feel like they are constantly nagging you, it is okay to tell them you appreciate the advice but you will let them know when you need advice.
#8 Avoid Remedies
There are numerous pregnancy remedies floating around but they should be avoided. If ever you have a problem during your pregnancy, contact your physician.
#9 Contact Your Physician as Much as You Need
Whenever you have a question, it is okay to contact your physician. In fact, if you have a mid-wife they encourage you to contact them with any questions or if you just need to talk through a stressful point during the pregnancy. It is always better to be safe than sorry. I know during my first pregnancy I was a pain in the butt to my doctor, but she always answered my concerns.
Did I miss something? What tip would you provide to expectant moms to survive the nine-month journey?